just like you!

Submitted by Spot On!! (United Kingdom), Feb 5, 2010 at 09:34

Dear Michigan! I like you had a similar story, i was talking to a Egytpian man online for almost a year, Again a 11 year age difference, it was by accident i first started talking with him, i was not looking to get involved with him, it started just as friendly banter. Over time it became more intense, and i found myself chatting on a regular basis. He was a amazing actor, at first i knew nothing to the reputation of Egyptian men, only that i had met Turkish men before, and knew of there charm. My man also had lived in Mighigan for one year, so he told me? After that he returned to Egypt, and then he went to Dubai, where he still remains. He was obviously very professional, at scamming, as he had already travelled a bit. But i had no reason to suspect him at first because he was already out of his country, and in a fairly good well paid job!!

Like you, i questioned the age difference, always saying why you dont find a young woman? He would always reply, that they dont have the same mind?? lol or that age did not matter when you love someone etc. I asked him about children, and that i would never have any, he would say he didnt want them?? After a long time of rehearsed answers, he started to show his true colours, and then in the end, when he knew i had enough, and i cut contact, he sent me a email calling me a old ugly, dirty disabled, mama!! lol.He said he did not respect me and that i wanted him for his money, and that he had wasted one year of his life on me??? Considering that this was the day after he had emailed me for a week saying he loved me, and never loved anyone before?? lol How quick he was to say he loved me, and how quick to call me a whore!! He turned everything around on me, it was all my fault, and he blamed me for everything, for not trusting him , and i never loved him etc!!!

He even accused me of cheating on him with someone else, he just picked some random guy of my facebook list, and said i was with another man, which was complete crap!! He then also told me that he had yet another woman that he was with, and she was 24yrs old, he loved to throw the age thing in, and make a point of me being OLD!! I loved this man, and never cheated on him, he never loved me, or respected me, although i know i am a wonderful woman. I did not bite back, and keep on ignoring him, as i know that is the best way, as much as i would love to tell him what i think, it wont get me anywhere, as you cannot hurt someone who never loved you!! I always suspected him, but i needed to hear it from his own mouth, and it took a year of him biting his lip, and keeping private fom me what he really thought, but sometimes although we know, we just need to hear it from them!! Now i know i will never talk with him again. Like you, i am getting on with life, and i pop back here just to see if one day his name will pop up on here?? As i am sure it will, this site saved me, when i had my doughts!! If i had not have come to this site, maybe i would have carried on blind, and been in a right mess!!!

Good luck to you!!!

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