resposne to von and Steph mcGuire

Submitted by becreative (United Kingdom), Feb 9, 2010 at 15:35

Steph -Why these women stay with these guys is they give the guy the benefit of the doubt, they are human beings with emotions, feelings, some are vulnerable some are in a certain " criteria" that "appeal" to these men - But the doubt, is always there- -- in the background niggling away. The long distance relationship is for some difficult to deal with and time ticks away with achieving very little. Emotionally this takes it toll , you begin to question, you begin to discover slowly that the person who was once this charming , funny, loving caring person that thought of only you , actually doesnt. This is not the womens fault and, she is certainly not stupid!!! by not getting to this climax sooner. Each relationship is different, but the scenarios are the same. These guys stick to patterns . The emotional turmoil and the necessary pressures they need to pursue and control you and eventually break you until you question yourself.are part of the game play but you think ..are you paranoid???are you clutching at straws thinking hes not like all the others??? is he genuine?? is he after visa,? money? sex? all going round in your head over and over again. until your mind actually starts playing tricks on you. This is not healthy and certainly not a loving relationship NO!

When you are able to see these signs, these games become more apparent then you need to break free but you cannot blame that woman for holding on thinking things will get better ,I know they dont,!!! so i would say these relationships are simply an illusion of what you want it to be and not a reality I hope that when they break the mold the women will breath easy.

simply block his number - thats the easiest thing you can possibly do but delete the number also so you are not tempted to contact him again. You are soley in control of that action.x

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