To Laura

Submitted by Zella (United States), Feb 13, 2010 at 21:39

I'm happy that you found this site and I just hope that you use the advice to help you make the right decision. First of all, you have two young daughters and they must be your primary focus. No mother wants her daughters to grow up in a country where women are treated like second class citizens. Here are the red flags that you haven't seen because you t are enamoured with this man about whom you know nothing except what he has said.

1. He couldn't take you to see his family because you are not a Muslim and they would expect you to wear hijab. I will almost bet you that he is married and that's the primary reason he couldn't take you to his home. If he isn't married, you can bet his mother and aunties are working extra hard to find him a Moroccan wife who is a virgin. Their son can never marry a divorced woman. If his family doesn't accept you now, why would you expect them to accept you later?

2. He expects you to convert to his religion? Did you tell him that you hope he will renounce Islam and convert to your religion? No, you didn't.

3. He owns "internet centers" and doesn't have any money.? Did he show you his business? If he is a business owner, why is he seeking on-line relationships? Usually the poor uneducated Moroccans are the ones that are the Scamologists, not the successful business owner.

4. If this man is a business owner, did he pay for your tickets to Moroc? Did he offer to pay for the tickets? If he didn't, this is a sure sign that he isn't the type of man that you need. Let's face it, if he talks about planning a wedding in the U.S. as well as one in Moroc but doesn't have the money to pay for a plane ticket, there is a serious problem. Guess who he expects to pay for the weddings (that is the "weddings" he speaks about

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