For Laura

Submitted by Zella (United States), Feb 13, 2010 at 22:09

You will receive plenty of advice on this blog but your #1 concern should be your two daughters. No woman wants to raise her daughters in a Muslim country. This man has already told you that you aren't welcome in his parents' home because you are not Muslim, you are divorced, and of course you don't wear the hijab. I have a hunch that his Moroccan wife and children also live in his parents' home. If he isn't married, you can believe that very soon he will be and not to you.

This man says he owns "internet centers" and, yet, he has to save money for a plane ticket? He probably works as a Scamologist in an Internet Cafe but I doubt seriously if he owns an "internet center". If he is a business owner, why didn't he pay for the tickets to Moroc for you and your daughter?

He has already said that he expects you to convert to Islam. Tell him that your family expects him to convert to their religion. Further, tell him that your father will discuss your dowry with him if and when he comes to the states. Tell him that you will not marry him until you've known him for at least 5 years and you expect him to sell the internet centers and come to live in the U.S. You set the rules, Laura, and you'll learn very quickly that you are dealing with a sociopath. He thinks you are "in love" with him and that you will do whatever he wants because you are a desperate, divorced woman with 2 children.

Laura, I certainly don't want to burst your bubble but you are dealing with a man who has no conscience and who is not just filling your head with lies. He probably has six other women that are hearing the same words he is saying to you.

You will do what you want but again, please think about the welfare of your daughters. Your primary job as a mother is to protect your daughters and help them grow into aspiring young women who are free to make their own decisions and hopefully the right decisions. These goals will never be achieved in Moroc.

Good Luck and keep in touch.

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