carol

Submitted by Praying (United States), Feb 14, 2010 at 22:06

Im sorry you have had a bad experience Carol, but you need to keep in mind too not ALL families in Morocco have the same principals or values. My husbands mom and sisters love me and I talk to her on the phone and she also knows I was once married to my ex with three children from him in their teens. I also talk to the one sister occasionally on-line. I call my husband and if he is near his mom and she finds out he is talking to me she gets on the phone and she tries to tell me she loves me. She knows I am not rich and she also knows my ex stayed in the family home to care of my children while I was there visiting. She is the sweetest lady, a little sad at times, but she reached out to me and wanted me to be a part of their family. I guess I can say my husband is closer to her but does not have a relationship with his father at all.

Even with this and as religious as the father is, he respected me and treated me with kindness and welcomed me into his home and into the family. the mother also knows i can not bear more children due to surgeries I had to have and she knows i will never accept my husband with another wife without divorcing me first. The sisters knows this as well. My husband does not treat me as a QUEEN. Infact, besides paying for food while in Morocco, he has never mailed me any gifts nor have I ever expected him too given the fact he doesn't have a steady source of income, and he fights for the money he does earn doing odd and end work to make his living there and to keep from asking for my support. He does not accept money as well from me even if I have it extra and offer some financial help to him.

He always tell me, i am very good and do not send. We talk on the phone a couple times a day and he always answers and always welcomes my calls. He has been very considerate and compassionate and has been a great friend and husband under bad circumstances and we are sad a lot by been a part but we try and comfort the other as much as we can. I hate that so many women are being scammed and there are a few good men but they are the normal ones and not the ones who are trying to treat you like Queens. Our immigration status is almost at the NVC stage. Therefore maybe he will be in the US by may at the latest if it is God's will. He keeps assuring me it is in Gods hands and his will if he wants us together. I pray he is correct.

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