To Diane on younger Jordanian man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 16, 2010 at 22:42

Maybe it was late when you wrote your post, but it's also apparent that you are tired of all the nonsense.

As a guy, I can say that whenever a man gives you inconsistent information that it means something is wrong or that he is lying.

You're telling us that he is mature, yet he cannot seem to have a straightforward conversation with you. The issue here is that at age 30, he has not lived most of his life as an adult. You, on the other hand, have. I don't think he's all that comfortable around you and probably realizes he could have someone much younger.

That does not mean that you are not a good catch or anything like that, it just means that you two are not a good match.

I just don't think he is serious about you. It does not mean that he is not attracted to you, but when you factor in the age difference and the cultural differences--not to mention his imprisionment---is this someone that you want to care for you as you age, because chances are, you'll be going through those difficulties sooner than he will.

Just look at this rationally, Diane----you are involved with a man who is much younger and undoubtedly better looking and I'm really wondering if this why you are still in contact and still have that hope. I mean, you're relying on heresay about him from a friend and yet you are contemplating an international move?

The best thing I can tell you is break contact with his family and other associates in Jordan and stay off of the computer as much as you can. Getting out of the house would help. See friends, family in REAL life and enjoy yourself!!

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