To Glori on Turkish man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 18, 2010 at 01:02

Hi there Glori

In your answer you've said several times that you like him, yet he appears to be keeping things from you.

The fact of the matter is that your relationship got off on the wrong foot. I mean, it sounds like you two had to sleep together in order to realize you both existed. I just wonder if you feel you had to go out with him in the first place to convince yourself that you were not "like the other"girls by sleeping with him.

Now, you admit having strong feelings for him, but sex can obscure feelings.

Could he using you for a path to US citizenship? Maybe, You said you were born here, which automatically makes you a US citizen.

It seems to me like you've been patient enough. I think that you would have a different view of this relationship is you had not slept with him on the first night.

Glori, whenever a guy is not clear like this, it's not a good sign. Maybe he's hiding something, maybe he just does have personal issues to work out. But you two are on different levels. You're talking about marriage and he's not even giving you the scoop on what's going on. What that tells me is that it could be something personal, or maybe there are other women involved.

Either way, it seems like this relationship has run its course, as poster Isis would say.

My advice is to move on from him. Even if he has issues that he can't control, I can see this is tearing you up and whatever is going on, he's not ready or willing to put you first (after God). It's a been a while since you've last posted, but I sincerely doubt he will change. It is necessary to communicate for a good marriage. Marrying him will not necessarily make him suddenly transparent and different.

Glori, you sound like a decent person, and you deserve better than this.

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