Hello Leigh...Let me explain

Submitted by Lisa (United States), Feb 19, 2010 at 21:39

Leigh, A friend thought maybe my husband and I was being discussed here since Myspace was mentioned. Do you know what our conversations are about everyday? Are you listening on the phone? Do you hear what he talks about to my twenty four year old son? What about my daughters? Have you seen my husband in person? He looks young in person? News Flash for you Leigh, you don't know everyone on this board or their partners or their intentions or situations or the struggles we face. Just because you picked a sour apple doesn't mean they all are.

Ask yourself why you married your husband and you confessing to know he wanted you for a visa? why did you waste time on him feeling he wanted a visa? Why pay all that money and give all that time devoted to the relationship knowing he didn't love you? Anyway, that is your problem and your choice, not mine. I can tell you a few things Leigh that sets my husband apart from yours and others I read about here on this site. 1). when we married we discussed a quick visa come to USA to marry on Fiance' Visa (he would have been here in 4 months and i had him a job lined up)or me come to Morocco marry and wait patiently apart. He didn't choose a QUICK visa. He waited til I could afford to come there 8-9 months away... and marry and then waited another several months before I could come again to marry....it's really none of your business Leigh but for the record, it was ANOTHER 5 months after I returned from my last trip before I filed our visa papers! Ina ll that time, my husband NEVER pressured me or asked when i would be filing to suggest a RAPID visa as this board states....

also he knew i was in a financial mess with cars breaking down as soon as I returned from my trip. He was not working at the time, and i paid the $355 processing fee so we could hurry and get our papers filed. He told me to file only after I was comfortable financially. In all honesty, I thought the procedure required MORE money up front or I could have easily started it sooner. Also Leigh, for the record, i didn't bring our Arabic copy of our marriage certificate back to USA but a translated English copy and we have an RFE meaning USCIS requested it to further process our case. Again, he has not RUSHED mailing this certificate. He regular mailed it, another 3-4 weeks of patiently waiting. They stop cases til they receive this document and we have two more stages after this initial stage. So Leigh, i know my husband has passed many tests of faith and love.....He is a good sweet man, not a boy. He is 34 and very educated and not poor. Your words of what you think of me doesn't bother me. and no one, no one, no one can possibly know how much we love each other. It's not one sided. It doesn't matter what you think. Its our life. Its our choice. Also Leigh, do you know more Fiance' Visa's get APPROVED than marriage visa's? We did what our hearts told us and we discussed our options. It was not based on some visa.

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