Turkish man, family, Latin Woman, Turkey

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 20, 2010 at 17:51

Welcome, Marlene!

The problem here, Marlene, is that this man is essentially choosing his family over you and he will respect their wishes.

It's really sounds like an excuse for him to leave you. Honestly, "I'll never love anyone else but you"?

That is so cliche, Marlene.

The reality is, Marlene, his family may not approve, but ultimately, it's his decision, whether he recognizes that or not.

Both he and his family are correct in the sense that your relationship will have barriers because of your cultural differences, but he sure does not seem willing to work with you.

From what I gather, he's saying "Well, now that I'm in the army, I guess this can't work out. Bye! Oh, but don't worry, I 'll always love you."

I'm not doubting that they have considerable influence over him (personally, I find it annoying when a girl says she'll only date me if her family approves), but he's an adult. Even if he did stay with you, you could expect his family to interfere in your relationship. I doubt that would change based on how deep your relationship would or could get. Yes, Turkey is supposed to be a modernizing country, but it really does not reflect so in some of the previous stories on here about Turkish men.

I would honestly just move on because you deserve better than to be joshed around like this.

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