Heart vs. Head on Algerian man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 22, 2010 at 16:06

Hi there Nic and thanks for sharing that with us!

Nic, I am very concerned about you here and as a guy, I must tell you that this man does not have the same feelings for you and he does not respect you.

If he is posing as another woman, not only is he committing fraud, he could very well be attempting to scam other men for money.

During my investigation of on-line dating, I often noticed very subtle changes in communication in talking with some people that suggested to me that I was talking to a man.

I can understand why you might be attracted to him, and I would not be surprised if he is the most charming man you've been with to date.

But the fact that you caught him in the act and made up tells him that it's okay---meaning that he can do whatever he wants as long as he does not get caught.

His excuse that he's doing to pass the time---I find that to be garbage and a lie. I would not be surprised at all if he is actually going out and having sex with other women. Unless there is something you are not telling me, the site interaction is all you know about and in these cases, it's usually more than just that.

On the converting to Islam deal----if you convert and marry him, it's entirely possible that he will still cheat and be on these sites and do what he wants, whereas you will be confined to the house with no male friends and social life.

You have even said that his sister held a woman who had a child in higher regard than she does you. It makes me wonder what he says about you behind your back to other people in your life.

Nic, I know that you have strong feelings for this man, but this just is not real. If he was really that into you, he would not need the internet to suppliment his social life and certainly not scam other people.

You've got to listen to your head on this one, and just because you "made up" does not mean that this is the end of it. This behaviour of his will most likely continue to go on and on.

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