responding to your question

Submitted by whomeitmayconcern (United States), Feb 22, 2010 at 16:51

The problem is, your friend will probably never listen to you. A lot of these women are so consumed with this man's attention that they can't see the truth. If your friend has kids, was divorced, is older, has any money, etc...then it is probably not for love that he sought to marry her. Legally he may be married to her and legally he is supposed to live with her in order to get a permanent green card. If they married in his country then he would come on a two year visa. They are to reside together etc. for two years from this point. After two years then he would be granted a ten year greencard. Only if she comes forward during the two year time period, would the government question it. A lot of these men give excuses, work etc... to not be living with the woman they married legally. Therefore he can set up home in another city and state with another woman and say, well hon I need to make money. He may visit her once a week, once a month or hardly ever. It's up to her to recognize what he is really doing and report him. The government really doesn't care so much. They have bigger fish to fry.

Legally he can not marry another woman but he can by the Mosque, which is more important to him since he is very religious usually. If he didn't love this woman then he probably just married her by a Justice of Peace or the Court House. Most of these men only recognize a marriage as real if it is done in a Mosque, by a Sheik. He will not feel guilty sleeping around on her, marrying another woman in a Mosque which he can do even in the states and religiously it will be recognized as a real marriage. If it was any other way in which he married her, he will probably not consider it a real marriage. If married by the Mosque, well religion and God are most important and he wouldn't wish to break the rules unnecessarily. They find every way to make excuses for their behavior.

I hope this helps.

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