Keep em coming Lisa

Submitted by Leigh (United States), Feb 25, 2010 at 17:48

Lisa sweetheart, I don't have sex without marriage. I am very much into my church, especially now. Remember me telling you that you and someone else on this site are the types that make them look at us as whore. Sleeping with them before you marry them, remember. My ex and I stayed in two different rooms in a hotel until we married, since you mentioned. You don't see anywhere in my posts where I said I just wanted sex with him. If that was the case, I should have run fast from him.

I was a divorced woman of 40, my child in college and thought it would be a different kind of experience. But like you said, why go around the world to to do it. You keep forgetting Lisa, I am not with nor am I planning to be with my soon to be ex. I saw the red flags, just like the ones in your marriage, but kept lying to myself making excusing, just like you, until I found this site. Don't worry why I didn't catch the flags sooner, probably the same reason you don't want to see them. I WAS STUPID! I'm cutting all legal strings with him. Why am I calling him my soon to be ex. All it takes is a certified letter to the embassy to stop all procedures (remember that). I don't call my ex, he calls me sometimes. My mind is made up and I have no ill feelings toward him, so why shouldn't I talk to him. I feel for some of the ladies on here who has gone through a lot with these men. If they had not, then they would not have been here for women like me to save. There are too many negative posts on here to say there isn't any truth to to what they are saying. Women like you coming on here in the same boat, with all the flags trying to give advice is what makes me bitter and I'm coming at you everytime you tell your story.

You don't have any morals, you bragged about no arab woman can do what you did to your man sexually, and you weren't married to him at the time. My ex only said his family would not except me because I'm not muslim. Other than that, religion never came up in our conversations. I don't even think he is into it as much. He allowed an elderly christian egyptian woman to witness to him about the love and the need of Jesus in his life. Most muslims will not listen to a conversation of that nature. He could have had her arrested, but he didn't and just listened to her, even accepted a Bible she offered him. I have no ill feelings with him, just his intentions with me. I got away before it was too late with no harm done, Lisa. Reading these comment helps me keep my guards up. You need to open your ears to hear and do the same.

I was not bragging that I went a third time to see my husband. Thats not the point. The point is you or me could not get to know a man with the few visits we had with them. Stop lying to yourself. A man here in the states will not want to marry you so fast, Lisa. Especially with so many childrens. I thought your husband was educated. If he is or not, I am sure he knows the immigration process and if he has money, would have had it all ready for you. He was just a poor or a tight one waiting on your money to finance everything. Someone told you even the poor and uneducated ones know the immigration process. Lets hope he comes, I read there is a hold on those from Moroccan. You better do some more reading.

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