I wish you the best...

Submitted by ANONYMOUSXXXXXX (United States), Feb 27, 2010 at 13:26

After being married 2.5 years, I can only tell my experience. Mine was same, hard worker, etc. Once he got here, he wanted to not work for a while, quit jobs, wants best phones, etc. And never showed his real face til he was here. So my advice is just be careful. Mine (for now) is to receive my house, retirement and money upon my death (And I am older). I often wonder (only after over 2 years of being treated not so nicely), what he would say if I took him off my will. I'm betting his attitude would change drastically.

He just quit his second job because he thinks he should make more. Of course, it's perfectly ok for me to pay the bills while he waits for his permanent green card. I have yet to have him put me first. Folks, it's just not typically in their culture to put a woman first. You have to accept that once married, their attitude is "Well, I married you, didn't I?". That's supposed to be enough. And it's for sure hard to get them out of your life. Why should they go? They have it made. To tell you the god-honest truth, I wish he would find somebody else and leave. Sad, huh? Just my two cents.

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