What A Loser you are Sam.... E....mam

Submitted by Stephanie (United States), Mar 13, 2010 at 20:08

I will never understand how anyone can get so brainwashed that they resort to lying, deceiving, killing in this case, and doing illegal things.

I knew a man I really thought was sincere. I learned the hard way after I'd almost destroyed my whole life, I hurt my kids, I almost divorced my husband, I hurt my parents, I just hurt everyone while with this man. This man had some technique, like brainwashing. He was Egyptian and after reading so many comments about Egyptian men and how every account tends to be similiar, I hate stereo typing, but he is just like all the rest. While I was with him I'd get angry when someone bad mouthed him and sometimes I'd cut off good friends that were only out to protect me. I just refused to see the truth and honestly I am an intelligent woman. I saw it, I chose to ignore it. He was a very, very bad man. He'd take anything he could get by using sad story techniques to get women to give him things. Some how he always had money in the pocket and I wouldn't be surprised if he stole things as well, like credit cards and things. He stole some of my stuff but I was so inlove with him at the time I never reported him.

He never looked so bad at first. In the months we were together, at least at first, he was very loving, caring, listened and tried to help me. He'd lay there while I slept and play with my hair and stare at me all night. It was easy to believe he loved me. Well he came here in Oct. of 2007 We were together until Jan. of 2008. (living together) I asked him to leave because I was starting to see how abrupt he could be with me and unkind. It started to scare me and I was unsure if this was what I really wanted my kids exposed to. I wasn't happy with what I was seeing.

He left but we continued to see each other, He came to me in April of 2008...we talked every day and flew back and forth to seeing each other for weeks at a time until May or 2009. I sent him money cause he blamed me for all his problems, for his reasons for being in this country. God...up until May of 2009 and he would say everyday how much he adored and loved me. I even saw him and spent a week with him in February of 2009. I feel like such an idiot because now everything is coming out. Last May I found out he'd married someone for a Green card and I didn't even know. I was hurt enough that he could be so mean by how he chose to have me find out and how he could lie for a year about it but... but....

So for a year he was lying to me, seeing me, calling me every day and saying he loved me, having sex with me... Well now it seems probably even five months before May of 2009 he had another girlfriend where he lived. I suppose they were having sex at that time but he never told me about her, called me everyday, said he loved me until May 2009. He was juggling three women?. Oh my God...I am just floored you know. How do these men do it? He was calling me all last year after we faught from August to December trying to get me to come see him and now i find out he had married this other woman in a Mosque, had a wife for a Green card as well and...there is so much more and still he wanted me to come stay with him up until this last December (2009) but I couldn't take it anymore and finally changed my telephone number.

Who does this? I wanted to believe him when he said his wife for a green card was just a sad, pathetic person that was obsessed with him, that he never could touch. He told me he was with one woman when we started talking from August to December right after we had our big argument in May of 2009 but that was it. One woman that was some co worker he worked with that was 28...one time and he said he hated it. Come to find out for a year and a half he was with this woman he married in a Mosque...? You can imagine my mind. Don't worry I didn't trust him the whole time he kept calling me because his real wife would write poetry describing and insinuating that she was having sex with him and so I never gave in or could get past that. There was just no way I'd let him touch me knowing it...but I guess what floors me the most is this other woman he married in the mosque now. I actually had no idea and she, well she knew of me but not that he was calling me, being loving with me and wanting me to come stay with him. She thought he loved her...while he's driving her cars, enjoying her money and and all her other things. Crazy...life is crazy...we women are crazy to hurt the ones that truly love us for these awful losers.

I almost destroyed my whole life for this man...he had three women and deep down each one of us knows he was messing with us all even if some are too pompous to admit it openingly. I used to call him a beautiful man. Now, he is the ugliest man in the world to me. OH by the way, Immigration is after his %$%^^ :) I wasn't even the one that broke down and reported him but somehow I feel a feeling of satisfaction about the whole scenerio. I guess the Gov. doesn't like a man that marries a lot of women or rather, never resides with his wife. Women here in the USA take good notes here. Never marry one of these Muslim men in a Mosque if it isn't a genuine marriage. Yes they do marry in the Mosque here genuine marriages which is okay but those fake ones just to have sex...nahhhhhhh. If it isn't a real, certified, legal documented marriage stamped by the Government, you aren't really married. Don't be stupid okay.

I know I was stupid but one thing, I never married this man so I do pride myself for seeing past that. I did let his threats, his mean ways get to me and his pathetic way in which he acted like he had no means to live...so I'd help him financially when he blamed me for his reason for coming here. I know I should have been stronger. I hope all of you can learn positively by what I write here today. I know I did.

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