worse part is feeling duped to Stephanie

Submitted by Willow NC (United States), Mar 14, 2010 at 19:26

Hang in there Girl. You know I could never prove it was another but the disappearing, not responding to me sometimes and the all the time text messages should have been the red flag early own. I think I tried so hard to not sterotype him that it must have clouded my judgement because I wanted to prove it wasn't so. Worse part is feeling duped like he got 1 over on me thus another victom. Mine would never admit it and we had remained friendly but occasionaly went out. He even asked me to get married in the mosque - I think so his conscience would feel better of which I never ever would. Never did or let him move in.

Every time I would get close to catching him he would either really put on the charm act or breakup and flip it which is typical cheater behavior. I really think they move on and do get 2 or 3. The unfortunate thing i've never been a stereotyper but this has put a bad taste in my mouth due to being so close. Never gave him cash although I made about 10x what he did. I hate to say this but his hygiene habits were becoming annoying. Looking like he hadnt shaved in days, wearing the same clothes he had on 3 days earlier when he had plenty of clothes. that jumping up to shower 5 min after sex but him not making an effort on his appearance to see me toward the end was disturbing but its their religion. Also was a big coward when I comfronted him. Well I know No Contact works.

My point is you can be the very best and if someone has no morals or their religion allows lying to save face....its hard to expect anything different. Just fell duped and embarrassed I even was remotely seen with this man in my city. I got to wonder if we try so hard to not stereotype it clouds are judgement even more.

Thanks for this board to make me realize i'm not missing anything without the loser other than heartache and tears.

Peace!

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