I forgot to say

Submitted by Stephanie (United States), Mar 15, 2010 at 11:04

I think I forgot to note one thing in all my responses concerning this Sam...eh ...e...mam. He didn't live with either woman he was married to. The woman he married legally lived five hours away. The woman he married by mosque lived in the same city but he maintained his own residence, living with some Morrocan man (in Lancaster, PA). I told the sister-n-law that from last August til December of 2009 he kept trying to get me to come and stay with him, for sex I know. The sister-n-law said, wow, that's probably why Sam would never move in with my sister. I hope this helps for some of you women that marry these men. If your man isn't living with you full time and says some lame excuse as to why, don't believe a word. Yes, they do marry Muslim unions here in the United States in Mosques that are not considered legal by the Government...yes, any man you are married to, he can be married to another woman in this way, not legally, mind you. The Muslim man will have a clean conscience, believing it's religiously okay to be having sex with both of these women and he's not going to care if he hurts either one mentally. The worst thing is, the man I knew, was still ready to meet me and have sex with me without hesitation and we weren't married. Don't you just feel the love here?

I say it's all crazy. These Sheiks that marry people in these fake unions in the USA, why no one doesn't blow the lid off of what they do is beyond me. After all, if they didn't do it, it wouldn't be happening. I know they have the power to marry ligitly, like any reverend does but good grief. I know up to four wives is accepted in their old Muslim countries but, it's illegal here. If they want this kind of life style, they should go to the countries where it's acceptable. While in this country they should abide by the laws. What I don't get, is when the Government finds these men to deport, why they don't ask the mosque wife who agreed to marry this deportee, whowas the Sheik was who did it. As far as I am concerned, he should also get into trouble!

I feel sad for all of you women that are questioning your marriage. I wish I could say everything will be okay. Your best bet, if he doesn't reside with you or goes back and forth to another city or state, is to start watching him more closely to see what he really does. Even if he seems to go somewhere to visit someone for weeks at a time, I'd sure be curious. I am sure some of these men lay low and don't get as bad as Sam. Women, think with your head, not your heart. Just remember it may hurt awful at present to think of life without him but if he is doing these bad things, he isn't a good man. Some men, I'm sure they'll wait the two years until they reach their ten year green card and then their true colors come out. I think Sam just got greedy. He liked playing with women, sexual, taking all he could get materially and financially and believing they were just so stupid, that he could get away with anything he wanted. He thought all women were stupid, he told me this to my face. The campassion these men see in women, they don't see as just kindness, they related it as stupidity, weakness and ignorance. It's true, women do tend to have more compassion but I know in my case, no one else will ever be able to mess with me again.

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