Why is Lying so easy?

Submitted by Willow (United States), Mar 17, 2010 at 17:54

If you ever have Read 101 Lies men tell women by Dory Hollander PHD. What she said makes a lot of sense. It's not directed at Muslims but men in general. Makes a heck of a lot of sense in regards to how one is brought up. So culture and ones values has a huge influence. You guys know this. Just helpful that sometimes you can take a man out of the country but not the country out of the man. So it's important if you are new to this to understand the culture and the huge Islam influence on how women are very beneath a man in some of the more fundementalist countries. It's no excuse - but you need to be cautious. If you've been hurt and come out the fog. I found the book very healing. I will say I know some wonderful muslim husbands that treat their wives like on top of the world and others with hidden agenda's well you know what happens afterwards

It's a good book regardless to make you aware in any relationship actually. I read it a while back and pulled it out and was like WOW - if they really are convienced women are way beneath they dont have a conscience and seriously they think it's ok to lie. Where most of us are raised you lie your parent spank your A#$. I wonder if some of them get this book and use it as a training guide how how to con women by them....LOL

pg 11 Quoting the author..

"The reason for his lies could be as simple to avoid unpleasant consequences or more complicated that makes sense to you. The reasons could be buried deep in his unexamined assumptions and expectations about how men and women are suppose to treat each other.

Lies Spring from personality, values, fears and self-interest a pattern far different from your own. His lies may be spurred by hidden conflicts around his needs for privacy and personal freedom versus your need that he be accountable to you. He has been raided with a different set of expectations that guide him as a male in our culture Perhaps he holds a different set of expectations about communications, sex, romance, marriage and the value of relationships in general. Sure your world and his may overlap but clearly a mistake to assume the same."

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