you can contact meThanks Isis for your support

Submitted by you can contact me (United States), Mar 21, 2010 at 12:34

Isis,
Hello dear. I admire you for having an open-mind and understanding. I don't need support here,lol. I just need my family and my husband in my life and a few friends which I have. You are an interesting woman full of un-biased knowledge. Jenna C from California, however is a 24 year old on Myspace who tried to add me as a friend after saying what she did here. She tried to say she was adding me cause she felt sorry for some of what she posted (laugh), but when you go back and read her posts to me she insinuated much and she was adding me for other reasons I think. Anyway, she posted she has an Algerian boyfriend and pics on her site she is seen with looks like Muslim Egyptians, etc as couples but puts them down here easily when it comes to others relationships. She thinks they are all the same BUT why is hers not?? The difference in her is she is 20 years younger than me and though she is not the most attractive even at her young age, she wants to post my husband can't possibly love me for the right reasons because he is in another country and knowing he can't be here without a Visa and he wasn't smiling in a couple of photos,(I sent her photos on Myspace contradicting what she said about our photos)....she thinks these men living here in USA or abroad and just maybe already has a Visa...can LOVE her? She is in no place or situation to judge anyone. How did her Muslim or Algerian friends/boyfriends get here? If this is the case, at some point some of their family had to migrate here through immigration as well. To me it is wrong to judge others situations not knowing. Why is it so much easier to see wrong in others relationships and lives but not your own? Why is it so easy to post someone is not pretty when the truth is known, that person calling another ugly etc, is not attractive themselves even at a much younger age? Therefore they will never be pretty at an older age. I sent her photos from the marriage celebration to her Myspace account where my husband had huge smiles that she seemed to overlook cause she wanted to post something negative here of our relationship.... People can be cold hearted. I have learned much from reading this site and I try to use some of it in my every day life. 'To learn not to take what others say to heart. The ones who do not want to see good things come to you and always want to criticize the situation is not friends or looking out for your best interest. What counts in the end is the love Mohammed and I have for one another. People should be more compassionate for others and wish them happiness and pray for them to make a good life together. Not always expecting or hoping it will be sour because theirs were. Where do they get their satisfaction in this? Mohammed has only been good with me for two years. He has never cursed me, controlled me, ignored me, kept things from me, never kept me secret from friends or family, never been ashamed of me in daylight public in his country, has offered to send me money if I needed it, is paying for his flight ticket himself, family and him paid for my wedding kaftan, both our rings, and the food for the celebration and helped with marriage paper costs. They even bought my kids gifts...he or his family has never used me or being anything but nice to me. They are not poor people. Elaborate home, kids married into Doctor's families, etc. His entire families are supportive of us. He surrounds himself with great friends. I am posting facts here but I get accused of bragging because its positive things and not negative. My point is why should he be lumped into this same category with the rest of these men, when he has not showed the same behavioral patterns as others. He did not start our relationship telling me how he loves me etc., He never pushed about a visa. I have e-mails as proof where he said it was only logic that we need to meet first and then decide if our relationship will advance or not. I have an e-mail where he asked me if I really thought of him as my Fiance, lol.... Most cases I have seen with scammers they don't care what the woman looks like. Mohammed seems picky with his women and looks. He has dated older Moroccan women of about 7 years...I am 9 years but I also spent 10 years of my life not going out in the sun doing yard work or swimming etc....I don't smoke and don't drink and never did drugs.I never acquired stretch-marks from giving birth or from losing weight..I am blessed with good skin genes from my mother..I think this is why my age does not show compared to my high school classmates or co-workers. My mother was married to a much younger American man who is now deceased She outlived him....... I sent Homeland security ALL our chat records from day one!! Every single day and I think they are more QUALIFIED to judge than some posters here on this board. Most people I talked to who went through Immigration were selected in what records to send and in some cases played up conversation scenes together...we did not have to do this cause we were average and never fought with one another and we both have had good characters with one another. I didn't feel a need to hide anything from them....so embarrassing or not they had the opportunity to read our every day life activities and conversations no matter how private. Isis, I think this is what you see is different in our relationships than others and is why you have continued supporting us.
He is a good man and husband and I would not have married him if I felt he did not have these qualities to be a good husband and a step father to my two girls living at home ages 13 and 15 when he is here in USA. Most of these women here posting saw some bad signs before hand but chose to ignore it and made excuses for it. I, on the other hand, have not been faced with any of these situations so why would I not support and love my husband?

I would like to update you on our progress....Mohammed is working as a chauffeur for a major resort while he waits for his journey here.(they called him back-seems business has picked up at the peak of a new season- seems it didn't matter he wrecked the car and fixed it before and they let him go, cause now they need him). He moved out of the family home to seek quietness and peace and is sharing living expenses with another couple while having privacy in the upper part of the home he is renting..He seems to be more at peace.... We both were APPROVED at Homeland Security USCIS for any fraudulent activities, FBI background checks, etc with all the e-mails I sent them daily, and chat records, phone records. Our case is now at NVC national visa center where we paid the AOS fee/bill and I had Mohammed send in the Choice of agent form DS3032 by e-mail.......next is the AOS Affidavit of Support package to fill out and paying that $400 fee for processing of it. NVC in return will send him an interview date allowing 1-1 1/2 months to do his medical, etc.... Judging by other's experiences, he may be here by June/July to enjoy the summer as long as I get all the paperwork filled out completely & accurate and how long our case takes at NVC. Next month is our one year anniversary of marriage. I will not travel to see him since he will be paying for his flight here soon and I must save vacation days to help him get settled into his new home. The kids are great...My son is working, saved, and bought a truck and will move before Mohammed is here and he talks nicely to Mohammed on the phone now that he is not blaming everyone for his lack of trying to achieve things in life & expecting hand-outs from me (24 years old). I expect Mohammed will be here in June maybe even July at the latest since once approved at NVC, they allows 1-1/12 months to gather documents and allow for his clearing of his medical exam. My mistake cost us a month added when I didn't mail the Arabic certificate along with the English version I sent to USCIS. NVC sets him an appointment date for the interview and forwards it to the Embassy.

Thanks Isis for wishing us well and I hope the same for you. I hope life is treating you well.I have been busy with remodeling and helping a lady launch her clothing line and helping with photographs and editing for it....... and I don't spend much time here reading. Isis you can reach me anytime at mirrorimagephotosbylisa on yahoo.com mail. Thanks for your continuous support and understanding. I sincerely hope life and marriage is treating you well.

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