To Pandora on on-line "friends"

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Apr 3, 2010 at 15:26

If you and him are just friends as you imply, why would the subject of money even come up?

Besides, they rarely ASK for money. Usually, they come up with some concoction to make you feel like you have to give money.

As a guy, Pandora, I can tell you this man is almost certainly after more than just friendship. What I think he is trying to do is wear you down by being persistent. You won't find much of that going on these days with Western men.

I can say this strategy works because I tried it myself before. There was a girl I was talking to who lived 800 miles away from me. Naturally, it was all on-line. We had met on a dating site and she said she would not date someone who is over 50 miles from she was at. And I was content to be her friend, but as we started talking more and more I began to like her, and our conversations got more intimate--until one day out of the blue she told me she had a crush on a coworker.

At this point, Pandora, I knew I had two options---I could either have a big pity party like most Western men would at this point---or I could keep flirting and talking to her to get her to like me instead.

After about a month, I sent her flowers and she was all over me like glue. Six-hour a night phone conversations and she was calling me baby and telling me that she loved me. I then went out to see her--1400 miles round-trip---only to find that she was not interested in a relationship. She would rather flirt with guys on facebook than actually date someone.

No matter how much you talk to someone it is impossible to really know them over the phone or internet. She was only 19 at the time, but I thought she was more mature than her age.

Meeting her in person proved me wrong.

I've also heard women come on here and insist that they are independent. But ask yourself this: If you are truly independent, why are you on here and why do you spend so much time talking to people on-line in different countries.

Do you REALLY think they care so much about you?

Of all the men on here, how many of them do you think are going onto Muslim boards in Arabic or French pining away at their uncertainties over you?

The problem with all this on-line interaction is that it's impossible to tell what the person is really like. If they are being dishonest, that only adds to the uncertainty.

You can talk to someone on-line or over the phone for years and still not know them. The problem isn't time, it's the method of communication.

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