Luigi...

Submitted by Pandora (United States), Apr 6, 2010 at 10:15

It's funny...you know I never expected this to happen. We became acquainted on facebook, and it started out as friends. I don't do long-distance relationships as a rule, and well, any of you that know my history here are aware that my last major one was a face-to-face with a Turkish guy who lived near me. Well, before long, this new guy and I were chatting by skype and y! messenger, and I got to know him and his friends (some family as well). He is very charming, sweet, and I also know that what you see online is but a sliver of what lies beneath the surface. Yet, I have friends who have checked him out. For the most part, he is what he says. I may have the opportunity to go see him. One thing would be great is just to see the country of Egypt. It has been a dream of mine since I was 13.

But I also worry about the emotional complications as well. He is unmarried, nearly 30 (an age I know that the family hurries to marry off), and fwiw a virgin. I have seen video of his brother recently getting married. He insists that his family will not have a problem if he chooses me. Thing is, how insane is it to marry someone you have not dated, met, or gotten to know other than chat? I have a child to think of. I am torn, because I feel like I have led him on in many respects, and now I really don't want to break his heart.

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