karen

Submitted by becreative (United Kingdom), Apr 6, 2010 at 13:10

Hi Karen - You unfortunately have been a caring friend to this man, and no doubt he has appreciated your friendship and loyalty, but what have you gained ?? You have spent all this time not knowing what this guy really was like in the flesh -as a living breathing person?? You havnt had the opportunity to have the maan in your arms, or feel the love you desperatly craved for.... am sure if you had made the decision to meet him sooner you would have saved yourself many years of filtering your life away on unreality.
Im sorry , you have had to endure all this for nothing , you must feel emptyness as this will leave a complete void in your life.
But it probably wont end , unless you have taken drastic measure to end it- He will keep this ongoing relationship going for himself, as he may need this interaction just as much.

Not being allowed to have a relationship within his own kind is sometimes too hard to endure, and you have been the light for him . But , he is now ready to committ to one of his own kind, if be it -chosen by his family members. Many of the guys marry a chosen member within the extended family, a cousin or a blood line relative on the fathers side - to keep the continuation of the name etc, You have done nothing wrong but love this man , and it seems he hasnt in his eyes done wrong against you.

I hpe you can move on, its not going to be easy for you. -x

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