trust me i know the truth

Submitted by julie (United States), Apr 6, 2010 at 15:54

Dear Stephanie,

i dont even know where to begin. I dont think your my enemy, i was so taken back by everything that has happened and it was just so hard to believe the person i loved could betray me like that. i knew about you from the beginning. cause of course you were the reason for his hardships, and we both know he is never at fault. lol it just makes me sick how he can never take the blame for all he has done. anyway, he told me he only told you what he wanted to hear cause he feared you cause of the sponsorship. he didnt want you to stop that cause he needed it for his greencard, i still thought it was wrong but was told it wasnt my business. I also know whenever we had problems thats when he'd contact you again cause he felt lonely. and he stopped talking to you when we were ok.

I am a nurse, i took time off to be with my kids cause i was going thru divorce, and i worked weekends thats when i met him. He persuaded me with his sweet words and acting like he cared so much. well you know. anyway he told me he never dated a blonde cause he thought they were stupid however i am far from stupid and i tan nicely in the summer :) any way it went from there.
I found out from someone at the diner he was married bout 2 months after we had been seeing each other and of course when i confronted him his response was he was going back home and hated lancaster and all the people in his business. and he didn't tell me right away cause he didn't want to lose me not knowing how i'd react.
I was also blindsided by him thinking he had a pure heart. I know he loved me the only way he knew how but still made sure everything he did only benifited him and only him. He has put me thru hell and i will forgive him but never forget. I too made him my world and gave him my all and got nothing but crushed in the end.

And then there is Amy, she is nothing but trash and always will be. I also feel sorry in a way for her, but Stephanie she brings it all on herself. To think someone will eventually fall in love with you is so sad. and its not all her fault im sure Sameh also tells her what she wants to hear. If they were truly only friends she wouldn't care who he is with.

I am sorry i was mean to you, he always told me you were mean to him cause he didn't want you anymore and i said to him people dont act like that for no reason i knew deep inside he was still stringing you along to have there when i wasnt and a month ago when the truth came out it just confirmed my doubts. Of course all that has happened he blames me. lol how sad. he still cant take fault for playing three women.

I gave him the benefit of the doubt and took him back. He is so good about making me feel guilt for what he has done. but i am so much wiser now and after the baby my heart had hardened towards him and he knew it. anyway he had amy come to his apartment cause she played the immigration card on him anything to get near him and one day before she came he started a fight with me. i didn't know she was here but i felt something was wrong cause we were fine and the next day he didn't want me to bother him, so i went by his house one nite and saw her car, and trust me the sickness that came over me. i think thats the moment i relized he is nothing but a liar, cheater and user. she was here for a week and of course cause of my anger of being betrayed i wrote her a note saying how pathetic she was and put photos of me and sameh on her car saying they were better than the fake ones she had posted on the internet. She took advantage of that and of course was crying to sameh and didnt understand why i hated her.

i dont hate her i just think she is a sad excuse for a person and they both deserve each other. well the day after she left sameh came to me saying we werent done and he didn't want to be without me so like a fool i let him back in my life. i asked him what he was going to tell amy if she asked and he said he'd tell her were together. the next nite i found a mean email from her on my facebook saying to leave her and him alone. and calling me names, well im not one to be disrespected and not respond and since he told me he was going to tell her. i replied to her. and you would think it didn't matter cause they are just friends right? all i told her was i dont care for what her desparate ... says and as for leaving sameh alone that wasnt what he was saying in my bed last nite. well now she wants to divorce him, and its all my fault of course he said i screwed him. but fact of the matter is again she shouldn't care who he is with. i know now he is giving her some kind of hope of being with her and i know now he only cares for himself and what he can get. i never in my life knew a person could be like that im just glad its over. im sick to know all i gave up for this man just to be betrayed and used like that. he says i screwed him but thats just stupid why would i do that when i wanted to be with him. he just got caught and didn;t know what to do.

I hope you can find closure like i am because we both deserve so much better. He will never change and he will always use women to get what he wants.

Take care of yourself and put him behind you as i have.

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