Leesa from 2 years ago, back PLEASE READ.

Submitted by Leesa (Australia), Apr 9, 2010 at 09:42

Friends and readers,

I am Leesa, The Leesa that was so very confused about 2 years ago. So i came onto this website and asked for your help. It was hard to hear and even though it was clear my "man" was doing me wrong i neglected to take responisibily and leave the situation.

About three years have past and they have been very hard. I didnt leave him. In fact i became more attached to him, Turned into a complete idiot. Didnt pass year 12 because i was always at his place, lost all my friends and the trust of my family. Through theese years i had constantly made EXCUSES for his behaviour constantly it was my own foolish reaction to avoid the truth. I had found him in bed with another woman but guess what,, i believed him when he told me nothing happened. That happened last year and im still with him.

So much has happened and none of it is good. The newest update is that his family have found him a wife, yes a wife.. and she is overseas waiting for him, nice isnt it. But its okay because because he can have more than one wife.. yes he can.so all i have to do convert to islam. because otherwise i am just a fool who hasnt seen the light yet. This was my final point. I knew that we had no future together.

I cannot convert to islam, I do not agree with the teachings. these years i swear have nearly killed me. They have been painful and i do not lie. i have just ended the relationship. I WILL NOT GO BACK, i wish him well, karma will return his deeds.It is now that i realise i am a person.. A PERSON, not an object and i deserve to be loved and treated with respect.

I guess what im trying to say here is that it took my 5 years open my eyes . dont get me wrong i am still getting over the breakup. but now i no the pain of the break up is easier than going back.

I hope that others out do not get fooled in these situations and JUST PICK UP AND MOVE ON, QUICKLY BECAUSE TIMES GOES BY AND YOU WILL LOOSE YOURSELF. i cant stress enough how painful it has been, i still do not charactorize all muslim men into a bad catorgory but if you are sensing something not right PLEASE WALK AWAY, there culture easily allows men to act disgusting ways because of the dominating position men have in their culture. i am 20 now and just walking away but i have to pick up the pieces of my life.. its not so easy.

God is my witness that i was a good person, he will help me through.

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