Yes, be aware

Submitted by Lina (Canada), Apr 9, 2010 at 14:54

I would caution any non-Muslim woman who has met a Muslim man and has started a relationship. I speak from personal experience in which I dated a Muslim man for one year until I recently ended the relationship. Two months after I left him, his wife contacted me as she found my information. He had lied to me and told me he was divorced with 2 children. In actuality, he was married the entire time and they are expecting their 3rd child.

Muslim men can have up to 4 wives. They technically do not need to inform any wife about the other relationships. It is suggested that they not lie as this is not respectable but it is in their rights to keep all their marriages separate. This is very important as some men will lie to Western women and tell them they are divorced or are not married, when they are religiously allowed 4.

Also, they are not allowed to date. At all. If they want to date someone, they marry her. So, some Muslim men take huge advantage of Western women because women here believe in dating and pre-marital sex. Pre-marital sex is absolutely forbidden. Yet, again, some Muslime men will engage in pre-marital sex because they can and get away from it. They create two lives--the Muslim life and the non-muslim life.

These men can be very charming because they are living out a fantasy. This is why they seem so charming, decent, serious about commitment and devoted to you. They are conditioned to respect women within limits!!! But, when you push about religion, raising children to choose their religion or other wives, they will be deceitful.

Some men will lie and tell you they are "spiritual" not "religious." Ask questions--do they attend Friday prayers, do they participate in Ramadaam--if they do--they are religious and are only using a line to take advantage.

It is better to meet someone with the same core values and morals because without it your entire relationship is based on deception and lies. That is not a way to live.

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