To Rachell: The Decision

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Apr 10, 2010 at 22:00

Hello Rachel and welcome,

First of all, this man cannot possibly love you. It is impossible for a person for to love someone else from just talking on-line.

Secondly, this sounds like a quick marriage. Think about it---you are on here unsure of yourself because you really don't know him. Sure, you want to believe what he says, but those feminine instincts of yours are telling you not so fast.

Listen, Rachell, you're getting only a fraction of the communication, even with webcam, that you would on a real date. It just is not possible to know him that well.

And here's the real rub--if he's lying, what you really get out of all those long nights is next to nothing as far as the truth is concerned.

It's very obvious that you are flustered by this situation, and to quote poster Isis--99% of the time something goes wrong with these relationships. Sometimes, the man acts like a real jerk and can be very threatening once he's over in your backyard and married to him. Other times, the cultural differences are just too great and the relationship just does not work out.

If this man was serious about you, he would be spending more time to get to know you. As it is, though, he's putting you on the spot to make what is probably the biggest decision of your life and now it's gotten to point where you are asking total strangers on the internet on how to proceed with your personal life.

That tells me, Rachell, that you do not trust this man. And how can you? How can anyone expect you to trust him when in reality, you barely know him.

If you did, this site would be irrelevant and there would not be there huge, lingering doubts or all this fretting.

On these late night chats, Rachell----if your man has all day or all night to chat with you until you fall asleep (which is what I think you meant) how good of a man can he really be? Decent human beings do not fret and have their social lives on-line.

The thing you need to do now is start to distance yourself from him. Go out with your friends in Ecudaor that you see in person. See your family. Don't be strung on a leash held to your computer for this man.

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