For Leesa

Submitted by Zella (United States), Apr 11, 2010 at 12:15

Leesa, you are a very brave young woman who has learned a lesson early in life that you will never forget it. Yes, it's tough when a relationship ends but try to understand that there is a major difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship. These men cannot and will not change and there is no point in even wasting your valuable time thinking about him. The ones that use and abuse women are sociopathic and narcissistic and they will never change. You can, however, move forward in your life, set goals, and accomplish them. Set some realistic attainable goals that will help Leesa (education, re-establishing family relationships, etc). You can do it. Yes, you can.

Don't worry about the fact that this man's family "found" him a wife. Educated, intelligent Muslim women don't want men who have nothing to offer. The "wives" that mothers and aunties find these men are nothing more than what I will describe as "breeding stock." They stay in the house, cook, clean, get pregnant, have babies, and repeat the cycle over and over and over. They life and die as second class citizens. Thank God you weren't born in a country where you are viewed as nothing more than a slave.

Good Luck. Move on, young lady. Move on.

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