To Julie

Submitted by Michigan (United States), Apr 15, 2010 at 10:30

I know the pain you are going thru as I am going thru the same kind of pain.

I met my egyptian man here in the US while he was attending university in my town. He was so very charming in the beginning. They all are. That's what made me fall in love with him. I have never met such a charming man. But boy do they know how to push your buttons and they take everything you say and turn it around and use it against you during a fight. They are narcissists.

Right before he ended it by telling his brother about our fights, he started hitting me. And he would even say things like... if you become muslim I will treat you better or when you become my wife I will treat you better. Well he has moved now to lower michigan and I'm sure is working his charm on his next victim as I type this. He never mentioned to me that he wanted a green card but I am sure that's what his hidden agenda was. I still hurt because of the promises he made and how he kept telling me how much he loved me.

Luckily, while living with him, I saw how angry, cruel and controlling he really can be and even though it was his decision to end our relationship because I didn't marry him fast enough (red flag there) I'm glad he did. I know I am so much better without him... but it doesn't stop the hurt. It doesn't stop me thinking of all the good memories I have of him and I together. We just need time, Julie, for our hearts to heal. We can get thru this.

Best wishes to you.

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