Advice to Victoria

Submitted by Ask yourself, (United States), Apr 30, 2010 at 16:37

Victoria, You stated he said 'He makes his own decisions and can marry you or whoever?"

If this is the situation with your man, there would be no reason WHATSOEVER that this Fiancee would and could not let you meet all his family unless he is ashamed of you or have other motives! Why would you want to marry a man who can not introduce you to his family and you are to be a wife to him??? I don't think this man has a good agenda. I would take a step back and watch him closely or better yet, cut all ties now before it's too late! I am married to a muslim man. He is not a stong practicer but he believes in his religion and will never deny it or play it down. I would question too why he wants to make you feel his religion is not important to him. Islam is not just a religion. Its the culture of these men and country.

The fact you are NOT MUSLIM, should have no bearing on the reason he does not carry you to the family home. I am not Muslim and I have made no plans to convert and my husband did take me home to meet his family on my very first trip and I spent time with the family on the other trips. They never made me feel ashamed of who I am or the fact I am American. Answer this question, "Would you marry a man in canada without meeting his family first?" This family is who he is!!

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