Answer for HOME

Submitted by Got Smart Fast (United States), May 2, 2010 at 17:28

If you are legally divorced from this man, he is no longer your responsibility. I would send a letter to the Dept. of Homeland Security - that has been notarized - explaining that you are divorced from this person and no longer know his whereabouts. If you have a copy of the divorce decree send a copy of that too. Even if your not legally divorced yet, do it anyway. I would also express my concern that he may be trying to involve himself in multiple marriage scams and advise them to investigate him. Before my divorce I wrote to the Dept. of Homeland Security (same address that appears on your letters for petition for relative) to let them know I know I longer knew this person's whereabouts or if he even made it back to his home country. Send express mail with delivery confirmation. They responded quickly and let me know the case was being investigated. They wrote me a letter recently telling me the case was fully closed. Don't just assume that everyone knows what is happening in your case. Make everyone in the Government that helped you get him here know that it is now a mess and may be fraudulent. You have to protect yourself. If he got here on a visa by himself I'm wondering what your responsibility is for him? Did you sign any papers saying you would pay back the Government for any financial assistance this man may need for the next 10 years? I hope you kept copies of everything. A divorce with an Attorney is expensive, but worth every dime in the end to insure that things are done correctly and in line with the laws of your country, or his country, if you made the mistake of marrying him there. NEVER marry a foreigner on their turf - make them come to you ladies, because if you need to divorce him, it's cheaper and less heartache on you. Take Good Care of Yourself. Youre all you really have in the end.

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