very concerned about what I have read here.

Submitted by Raye (United States), May 2, 2010 at 17:55

My situation is somewhat different than most I have read about on here as when I met my moroccan friend he had been living in the US for several years and had his green card. We met through my job and he started calling me and visiting me daily after about 6 months the relationship became intimate. I have met Most of his family who also live here and he eventually ended up getting a job where I work.We have had a relationship for almost five years and I thought I knew him well and trusted him, then his dad died in morocco this past year and he had to travel there where he stayed for 40 days while I covered for him at work and looked after his mother. When he returned everything seemed fine but he was moody then I found out that he was married to an american woman and had filed for divorce prior to leaving for Morrocco. He said he didn't want to tell me because he didn't feel like it was a really marriage and it had ended long before he met me.

It turns out that he also didn't feel the need to tell me about a woman he met in morocco that he has kept in touch with since coming home. It finally all came out that they are to be married as it is his grandmothers final wish and he said he didn't want to tell me as he thought it would all blow over and his grandmother would just drop it but now she hasn't and he feels as though he has to do as she wishes because she raised him. He just returned from spending time with her and his grandmother in Morocco but he still doesn't want to admit that he intends to marry her. He says he doesn't want to but will do whatever pleases his grandmother.

I think it is all a lie or he wouldn't be talking with her on skype every night.I have no respect for this woman either as she knows about me and our relationship but is choosing to ignore it. She works for some hotel in morrocco and is planning to come here for the month of Ramadan to play house with him and show him what a good wife she will be. In the meantime he has said he likes her but only because of the religion he doesn't find her attractive and says she is nothing special but it is what my grandmother wants. He has made comments about how many wives he is allowed and says he wants to marry us both because he doesn't want to lose either of us. I told him I have no intention to share my husband and it's not legal here. He wants to keep our relationship too and I said the minute you are married she is what you have chosen he said why it is just a piece of paper. I do not even know where this attitude is coming from but it freaks me out.

Unfortunately I still have to work with him so I am trying to remain calm. I do still love him as we have 5 years of history but I can't trust a man who got engaged to another woman while we were together. He wants me to make friends with her and I have told him to keep her far far away from me or I will rip her face off. He keeps telling me I am his best friend and always will be and for him nothing will change. At this point I do not know what planet I am on.

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