Response to Victoria on "time will tell"

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 3, 2010 at 23:51

Hi there Victoria

First of all, you've only posted twice and I want to point something out to you. You are considering converting to Islam for him, and yet you admit you do not know him well. Why would you want to change your lifestyle to accommodate someone else? And what about him? Is he learning about your interests and philiosophies, or is this a one-way street?

This precursor talk towards marriage seems to really be flustering you. You tell us that he says its your decision whether to convert or not, yet something is evidently pushing you to be more serious with this man. These are all classic signs of quick marriage. That is really why you are on here I think.

On him having another fiance (or even another girlfriend for that matter), that is entirely possible. It has been discussed on here before that Muslim men involved with Western women are already involved, and why should that be surprising? It happens in every religion.

It's worth noting that Muslim parents and families sometimes arrange for their children to marry a certain person. It is possible that this has happened with men despite his presence in Canada. Remember, you've already indicated how religious his family is.

The idea that he does not act like someone would in Iran by dating and having sex outside of marriage does not mean that he is a good man or even that he is willing to put aside his religion for you. You've got to be very careful when dating religious men because they can through what I call "weak phases" where they just use women for practice sex. In Scandinavia. this is a common practice for many immigrant Muslim men. One convicted rapist, Hamid, admitted in an interview in Sweden that when he was done doing Swedish girls, he would marry, but only someone from his own culture not some Swedish sl--.
And if yes, why would he try to have something serious with me ?

As a guy, I can say it's very possible that he just wants sex or someone to be with for the time being.

What really bothers me about all this, Victoria, is that you have the benefit of actually seeing and interacting with your man. It is very clear to me that you do not trust him, and how can you? You've said that you don't know him to well.

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