Support for Raye on Moroccan relationship---getting treated bad and still having feelings

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 4, 2010 at 12:37

Thank you for sharing that with us Raye!

First of all, you did the right thing by letting him go. I can understand that you still have feelings for him, and the fact that he was married behind your back will not make those feelings vanish as if they are controlled by a switch.

If there is one thing I have learned, it's that even if you are treated like garbage, it does not negate the feelings, at least not right away. I dated a couple of women who have fooled around behind my back and they gave me every excuse for their behavior---I'm depressed, I want to be who I am, I'm f--ked up,....

The list goes on and on and that's what your man did. The idea here is to get you so emotionally involved that you'll tolerate anything he wants---a visa, money or in your case two wives.

And believe me, Raye, they'll throw the entire book of excuses at you----because it works. I even gave a woman who constantly cheated on me a second chance because I thought she had changed. I was wrong. She's even tried to get back with me for a third time. Another woman I dated the same thing---she dumped me to get back together with her ex-fiance, then they broke up again, she dated someone she meet on the social networking site Gaia, and then broke up and shortly after she wanted me back.

So I am not surprised that he is trying to get you back and have his cake and eat it too.

I wouldn't believe anything he says. If he only liked her because of her religion, why would he invest so much time talking to her?

And the whole grandmother thing----I would say that's just an excuse to place the blame on someone else so he can have his way.

Listen, Raye, as a guy, most of the time if a guy is spending that much talking to a girl, it means he has a romantic interest. It's similar to the "friend" excuse that I hear on here every so often where a man gives the woman he just wants to be friends when he really wants more. While it is true that is how many relationships begin logically, it's just something to be aware of.

To steal a quote from a priest in my Church, it would be trite to say "well, these things happen".

I admire you for remaining calm and professional at work. I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you. Just know that you have my support on here.

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