Thanks for your support

Submitted by Raye (United States), May 4, 2010 at 18:04

Thank you for your comments and support I agree with everything you have said. I asked him yesterday why he can't just be honest and admit that he asked his family in morocco to find him a wife and he said that is absolutley not true! He said you can ask my sister she will tell you the truth because I know you don't trust me anymore. He still swears it is his grandmothers last wish which is really beside the point anyway as he is now engaged to another woman and that is the issue not whos fault it is. the woman he was married to before was kind of a mess she had lied to him about being married 3 times before and she would make them move every couple of months and he couldn't handle it anymore because he was trying to work and go to college and find some stability. I know all of this is true I also know they were seperated for several years before we met. I am still upset that I didn't know he was ever married until this past year after the divorce was final. He keeps telling me I am his best friend forever no matter what and that for him nothing will change. I wonder how he thinks his wife will feel about him spending time with a woman that doesn't want to meet her or speak with her at all?

I am a little disturbed by how he looks at marriage anyway as he says he has no intention of living in Morocco and says she doesn't want to leave her family and job and can't handle the climate here yet they will try it out for a year??? It is more like a business deal than love. He has made it very clear that he could be living in Morocco and helping his grandmother with her property and would never have to worry for money as she is very wealthy and has been trying to get him to return for years she actually faked being sick so that he would stay longer this last visit. He took her to the hospital and they couldn't find anything wrong with her but he said he felt guilty for leaving her to return home. I wonder if she didn't use her estate to get him to agree to the engagement. It seems that manipulation runs in the family. I just can't believe this man suddenly aquires a fiance in the middle of our relationship and thinks that the three of us are going to be the best of friends. I don't really believe he wants two wives I think he says these things because he thinks that I want to hear that he wants me too.

I have told him repeatedly that he made his choice and I may not have had any say in this whole mess but I choose not to have any association with this woman because I am not going to be demoted to the supportive best friend role and he will find out in the end what a mistake he made because I am no ones second choice. I would advise woman to never get involved in online romances with men from foreign countries it is difficult enough to really know someone you have spent 5 years of your life with when they are right next door and you spend your entire day with them. It only complicates things further when there is a difference in religion and culture.

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