For Victoria - Luigi said it all, but some major BLUNT talk is in order right about now...and not just for you

Submitted by Got Smart Fast (United States), May 5, 2010 at 15:32

Luigi is so right, these men have very patient women overseas waiting for their visa papers to come through. Culturally, an arranged marriage is probably what is happening with your man. Cultural, social, and racially pure lines are more important than you can really understand on that side of the world - and even for immigrants. Who your family intermarries you with within your culture is very crucial and socially important to them. What I have noticed with White females - Euro, Canadian, and American alike, is that they feel at times that their skin color makes things "not really matter" with Middle Eastern and North African men because alot of them have white skin also. In fact, some think they are "unique" or "special" for these men because of their Anglo status - the "I'm a prize" mentality as I like to call it. Your still not a woman from their "culture" and that makes a big difference. Your not seen as good enough. Sorry to be so blunt, but someone needs to say the truth about what your not understanding. You can't speak his families native language, raise his kids properly (Persian), or even interact with his family in a socially correct way. What else is there? So you convert, what's next? What else will you give up to still be seen as less? All you women on this site thinking of "dating" or marrying that haven't sat quietly for a day and considered these things - go find a quiet place, sit, and start now! Please let us know if you ever get to met his family Victoria and he introduces you as his "girlfriend". It isn't gonna happen, but one can dream. And do yourself a favor, ask him if he would convert to your religion for the sake of YOUR family if he had to and listen to what he tells you about how "horrible" your beliefs are. Even if your not religious yourself, talk to him about your personal core beliefs (pre Islamic studies) when it comes to life in general, the future of how you will raise your kids if you decide to ever marry someone, and even discuss the universe, and see what you get. Don't be afraid to talk about what YOU feel and want in life.....that is If he is still paying attention to you after you ask him about leaving Islam....

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