To Victoria re my previous comment

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), May 7, 2010 at 20:24

Vicoria I hadn't read all the posts and somehow assumed you were seeing a Turkish guy. Not a big deal - not much difference in Turkish and Persian cultures. The fact that he hasn't taken you to meet his mother because she's very religious is a huge red flag. Either it's because his mother will be against her son seeing you or because a woman who meets their criteria has been chosen already from back home. Even if you were to marry, his mother will no doubt be the death of the relationship. Middle eastern mothers have huge power over their grown sons, something you can't begin to imagine. He can be disowned for disobeying his parents and since to lose contact with family is worse than death in their culture, he will always comply. If you were to marry and have children - even worse because you will be abandoned.

And for those wondering why i'm back posting again, I'm blowing off steam cuz the turkish husband ( yes, still married - still waiting for the appeal court decision ) started contacting me again with some story that he's seen the light and wants to make amends and be friends and by the way would i please sign the divorce papers if he pays me some money ? This offer somehow evaporated suddenly. I think mom or the second illegal wife must have found out and stopped his scheme and said to wait for court because as we know, the man won't have to pay a cent in alimony.

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