For those who man have not asked for money yet.

Submitted by True Colors (United States), May 15, 2010 at 17:46

I am thinking I have made the same mistake as you ladies. Met my husband on the internet, he's 9 years younger, not from egypt or morocco, but from jordan. He's a taxi driver, not his own, he rents it (so he say). We chatted for 6 months and I went over to marry him. He is not here yet, we just had our 2nd interview and waiting for the decision. All the typical signs showing I have read on this blog except for the money. I did help with the marriage expenses, paid my own way there. He seem to work everyday, he doesn't sit at the nets on the computer and seems to be driving everytime I call. So I know he is not a lazy man, he will work. He never asked me for anymore money after the expense of getting married.

Now all of a sudden he asked me for $1300 hundred dollars for traffic tickets so his boss can renew his insurance. I told him I was not comfortable giving him money when we are not together yet, for I don't know what he is doing. He got upset, but tried not to show it. He became very hyper. I know he has an ex and has to give a certain amount of money to her for the kids, court ordered.

You ladies are right, when you say NO to them, their true colors will come out. You will see the motive plain and clear. I guess I will be getting a divorce now also. I don't want a man who can't manage his money and that is the impression I am getting from him. I thought he was saving for his trip. If immigration approved him, he doesn't have anything saved to come, and I'm not giving up anything.

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