Re man's age

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), May 19, 2010 at 13:07

I don't always see the red flags all at once so here's another thought...I realised we need some more details about this man and your relationship.

You say he is "way older than you ". What is his age exactly ? Middle eastern men usually marry in their 20's so if he is much older can i assume he is divorced ? If yes, what was the reason for the divorce ? ( don't believe what he tells you automatically ). And if he hasn't been married before, this is VERY unusual and suspicious. Why not married ? He might say he's not married but have a wife in the other country that he vists occasionally. You'll never know. Just like I'll never know if my husband has had another wife or fiance the whole time we've been married. He denies it of course.

Do you know about temporary convenience marriages in his religion ? Maybe this is what you are. The convenient canadian wife with another one back "home". This is very common in his culture. You won't be told you're the convenience wife but he'll drop you at any time when you've served your purpose. No I'm not cynical and giving biased advice - this happens all the time. And don't forget that asking him these things isn't going to give you the truth.

Your parents are wise - listen to them and be happy in your one and only life. Marriage is supposed to be a happy thing, not the slavery you're in for.

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