Response to SSS

Submitted by Some Advice (United Kingdom), May 26, 2010 at 20:49

Its not my place to judge but maybe I can give you some useful advice.

I have been married to an Egyptian man for just over a year after two years of many many visits to him and his family. I didn't rush into marrying him in fact it took him over a year to ask me which I orginally said no. This was my test for his love to me I know that he was having pressure to marry but I said I wasn't ready and if he loved me then we can wait. I made him wait another year so that we could get to know each other and so I could spend more time with him. I spent periods of a month at a time every 3 months with my husband and his family. In this whole time it was never anything sexual just periods of getting to know each other. I was never asked for money and he never lied not even small lies as far as I have seen. We have always been very open and honest even if we know we will upset each other and this has made our relationship strong. But we have been through some many difficult times with the culture differences and we still do, but we communicate and reach a mutual agreement, I found him to be very understanding and not all eg men are. As for religion most muslim men take this very seriously and of course they want their wife to follow the same as them, if you are not willing to even think about converting then read about the religion and culture to understand it as much as you can it will make it eaiser if you do decide to marry this guy. This helped in my marriage.

All I would say from my experience and from what I have been able to see with other foreign relationships when have been in eg is you dont rush this for the following reasons:

1. you have never met him or his family
2. he has asked for money
3. you said he wants to live in your country
4. visiting him this one time will not stop you doubts when you return you will still question all his motives.

Look my marriage is not the perfect and there are times when we have problems, but we know each other so well we are able to work through them.

You are still young and have plenty of time for marriage. just ensure when you do its for the right reasons and with the right person.

This site helped me a lot when I first met my hubby, just from reading about peoples experiences, although I never posted. But I did look for all the warning signs that many women experienced and without seeing their stories I would have never of known the things I know now.

I have been lucky but not many women are I just ask GOD that my marriage continues to be a happy one.

If you ever need any advice I will be happy to comment

All the Best x

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