To Rose: Some helpful advice

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 4, 2010 at 23:50

Hi Rose---

The first thing you must understand about this site is that while Egyptian and Moroccan men may be discussed most frequently, their ethnicity or country of origin has no real bearing on whether they are good or bad people.

Having said that, the fact that your man is an Iraqi is pretty much irrelevant.

What is relevant is that you are already concerned that he's after a passport. You really do not say much about your relationship, except that it sounds to me like it's an in-person one.

Rose, I'm not really convinced that you really know who this man who is---good or bad. The fact that your family is worried tells me that you and him have discussed coming back to Canada together and that with this decision you do not entirely trust him. If you did, there would be no reason to come on here and post.

As for his current mannerisms about not being religious and being nice, well, that's how all romantic relationships start, Rose. I'm sure you've seen on here about men are nice to women at first, then once the woman gets to where she is going---in the case of Saudi Arabia----the change is immediate. Other times, it takes months or even years for the real person to come about.

I've lived with an Iraqi man before, and he was nice, well-to-do fellow. I'm sure he'd make a great partner in a relationship with a woman, but even a good man from another country may not be a good match for someone from the West.

You really do not go into specific details, but it sounds to me like things are moving pretty fast, and that's not really a good sign. Quick marriages and quick living-together scenarios are almost always recipes for disaster.

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