Response and Questions

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jul 5, 2010 at 23:15

I'll close with this. I'm sure that there are plenty of women who are chatting with attractive foreign men right now and are coming to this site in the hopes of finding answers about whether or not it can be real. Simply put, no website can tell you what is in any man's heart. You can arm yourself with knowledge and learn about his background and culture as best you can, but ultimately only time will truly answer your questions about the man.

You don't always have to know whats in a man's heart to have a reason to leave him. Women in the West do this all the time with men they see regularly in person. Not every break-up entails an investigation.

I think our regular posters are pretty accurate when depicting what a man's motives are. It's easy to say "no website can see what's in my heart", but the reality is every time someone posts on here, it says something. If you practice blogging long enough, you can tell what's going on and notice certain behavioral patterns.

The responses alone should tell you that.

The women I've seen who are in long-term, successful relationships past the point of immigration and financial benefits all have certain traits in common. Not one of them felt like the foreign guy was their last shot or only chance at happiness. Not one of them was afraid to be alone. Not one of them would accept half a man.

But what about the women who have been so hurt by Western men that they swear them off forever and date a foriegn man on-line in an attempt to spite Western men? Would you consider that healthy?

And what do you mean by "long-term"? I've seen relationships that have been flung to wind years after a marriage in the cases you describe.

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