To Disappointed---Stand Your Ground

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jul 6, 2010 at 02:25

Disappointed----

I am glad that you want to keep this child, and that is a decision that I fully support. If you did change your mind and decide to abort this child, I'm not convinced this man would come back to you just because of that. That's what the guy in me says.

When you posted, your man was upset and frustrated. He was frustrated because he thought he could have sex with you without having to worry about getting you pregnant, but because he thought wrong, he is now trying to blame you for everything. He's doing it just to feel better about himself. A very selfish thing to do.

The concern I have though is how quickly he just left. After I initially read your post, I thought maybe he was just freaked that he got you pregnant, but this shift in blame to you and him just leaving you makes me wonder how he really felt about you. The sense I get is that this all happened very quickly.

My advice to you at this point would be to care for you and your child. Don't count on your man's help, and as hard as it may be, try not to worry so much about him and what he will decide to do at this moment. Perhaps at a later date you could decide what role, if any, he could positively play in your child's life.

Having said that, I would not be so quick to take him back if the situation every arose.

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