To Maggie - many red flags

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Jul 26, 2010 at 22:19

To make a decision that will benefit YOU please look at all the red flags in your story so far. I am assuming that your man is Egyptian.

1. He is a much younger Muslim man and you are an older Christian woman. These men target older vulnerable women.

2. The only information that you have about him is what you have gleaned from a few text messages and phone calls. You haven't even had a face to face conversation with him.

3. He is working in aEgyptian resort area which is full of gigalos and scammers. Dive instructors are amongst the worst for this type of behaviour. He would have had and has, many Western wives and girlfriends.

3. You are showing him that you have money by gping back to see him so soon after your brief meeting and staying in a hotel. Believe me, he will find some way to make you part with your money and your dignity. These men are very persuasive and know all the romantic lines to get you in.

5. You have little or no understanding of Islam and Egyptian culture. This man will be married to an Egyptian woman and he will have children. He will be supporting them plus an extended family. Any money that you will eventually give him because his mother/father/uncle/aunt are sick and need medicine/hospital treatment will go to his family after he has bought himself a new mobile phone and new clothes.

6. Under Egyptian law, unless you have at least an Orfi marriage with this man or he is an accredited tour operator or guide you will not be able to accompany him in the streets or stay with him in a room. If he does not have these credentials you will be breaking the law by even dining with him alone in a restaurant and if arrested, you can expect 6 months jail time in Egypt. Whilst these laws are relaxed in the resort areas of Hurghada and Sharm you would still be breaking Egyptian law. These laws are more strict in Luxor and as a couple, you would be questionned by the tourist police.

There is much to think about and I hope hope you make the best decision for YOU. I personally, would leave this man where he is and not engage in any further contact. This is a typical scam.

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