Traveling back to see your man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 1, 2010 at 18:21

Hi there Maggie

First of all, I have no doubt that you look young for your age. But so do a lot of women in these scenarios.

You say that you "really like" him a lot. My question to you on what basis---because he is young and looks good?

I think that Isis hit the nail on the head in her response. The fact of the matter is, Maggie, you do not trust this man one bit. I don't blame you, but that is a pretty big deal when it comes to what you are planning.

The problem is that you are not sure whether or not it's a lie and that you'll have a miserable time. Your fears on this matter are valid, and it could very well be that once you are there he will try and make you feel sorry him since he's supposedly paying for everything and that is the game that is often played. Get you all the way down there having carefully planned that around work and your schedule and make it seem like it's just easier to go along with what he wants.

That is why, Maggie, dating scammers from all over the globe usually will not reveal themselves until after a few years of marriage. By then, they have want they want no longer need their spouse.

In your case, we really aren't talking about marriage (unless there is something you are not telling us).

Besides, Isis is right. It is culturally unacceptable for you to be with a non-relative who is not married. I suppose you could bribe your way past that, but otherwise it's just a big no-no.

As a guy who is about the same age as this man, let me just say that I don't think he would be geniunely interested in you romantically. At least not to the point of marriage of kids. It's also entirely possible he is involved with someone else.

I can understand why you would be attracted to this man. I'm sure he makes you feel young and really good about yourself. Those are normal feelings. But that (like that over-the-top text message) is how they lure you in. They understand that by flirting and teasing you will make them look different than all the other pigs who want to get down your pants.

Like you said:
i am probably just another one,

I think deep down this how you really feel and that for now you are just caught up in the fact that a younger man likes you. There's nothing wrong with feeling the way you do, Maggie, but I'm convinced this trip will be a waste of your time. Either you are going to worry the whole time that he is up to something, or he'll do something to show it.

A lot of people don't go through with things like these because it's not just worth the emotional wear and tear.

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