Response to man-defense post on Algerian men

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 7, 2010 at 15:53

I found that your reply was quite agressive, maybe it was just the way i took it, however i will answer your questions!

Okay, AnnMarie, questioning whether or not you trust your husband is not an act of aggression. If your response to me is going to be filled with angry accusations, then you almost certainly have a problem.....and it is neither me nor my posts.

I found this website, when i was looking on a search engine on forums to do with Algerian people and their culture, also recipies,

Really? so you would rather talk with people on forums than enjoy your husband? And if that is the real reason why you searched for that information on-line, why did you come to a forum that says in big bold letters Advice to Non-Muslim Women Against Marrying Muslim Men?

I will say that it is flattering to a point that you would select to talk to me instead of spending time with your husband, especially you perceive his country and culture to be so wonderful.

Perhaps what I write is more interesting than I thought?

Oh and one more thing---I tried typing in query "Algerian culture" and "Algerian recipes" and this site did not come up. It only came up when I queried "Algerian men" or "Algerian men scam".

I've heard the whole "I just stumbled on this site by accident" excuse before.

It does not happen. Ever.

as I am married to an Algerian i think that it is nice to be able to know about their background, same if i was married to someone from Greece, Spain or anywhere else in the world, as I like to see how other cultures live, this is a strong interest for me.

Red Flag---Marrying a man without knowing his culture. If you don't his culture, you don't know him, and if you don't know someone, it makes it much harder to trust them.

Also just because I am married to someone who is from Algeria it doesnt mean that he didnt have a visa before he met me in which he already did have one,

The fact that he is Algerian is almost entirely irrelevant as on-line international dating scams and incompatible relationships occur across countries, religions and races.

i just mentioned in my last blog, that people were saying he is maybe trying to get a visa, when i put them straight this wasnt an iissue, so he already had a visa

Who is "that people?" As of right now, you've posted two twice on here, and one was a direct response to me.

A visa is not a promise for citizenship and the possibility that he married you for citizenship cannot be ignored and in mind gets greater and greater as I read more of this man-defense post of yours.

And if you feel you have to come onto to a blog and "put people straight" about your personal life, something is most certainly wrong.

also my husband is here at home with me know ...

Really? doing what? I'll he's not on Muslim message boards in Arabic telling total strangers how great this marriage is.

you really need to have more faith in the human race,

Marriages are not based "faith" they are based on solid trust. Views on humanity are irrelevant, but I will say that if you let your guard down people will take advantage of you.

I wouldnt like you to get all bitter and twisted on us now, just asking hope you ding mind but have you ever loved somebody who you would do anythin with in reason for, or has anyone ever loved you?

I tried on-line dating for nearly 11 years, including international dating. I've had people tell me they love me without even meeting me or hearing the sound of my voice. I've also been in said relationships with women who told me they have loved me and then minutes after saying that would cheat.

Since you're already on here not only reading but interacting with other posters in spite of your "wonderful" marriage, you might as well read up on the previous experiences I have posted on here before.

Sorry, but I am not bitter. I know that would be a nice excuse to throw aside what I am saying as it clearly has sent some waves amidst this "happy" marriage, butI have forgiven much of what has been done to me. To one person, I even wrote her a letter forgiving her.

You see, AnnMarie, I have a very practical, objective viewpoint that is not mired by emotions. I'm sorry I can't say the same for you.

maybe this is your problem, any ow, thank yufor your kind supportive message you seem like you know a great deal on he important thngs in life!

I happen to be very experienced in matters of on-line dating and have even conducted investigations on certain scams.

I would say that not marrying someone who could use you for money, sex, citizenship ect. is pretty important.

No matter how sarcastic and defensive you get, the facts will not change.

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