Help for Asma

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 10, 2010 at 17:13

Greetings Sister in Abraham

Let me just first say that if you are on the internet asking total strangers advice about someone you are dating in person, it presents a problem.

It tells me that you are not sure about something in the relationship and you seem rather desperate.

I'll be honest----I don't like this, Asma. The fact that marriage has been discussed and you do not know his family and apparently he does not talk much about you to his family.

That is a problem because it could be that his family wants him to be with someone else and he is not entirely sure what he wants yet or perhaps he is cautious at what could a challenge to what his family wants for him.

At the very least, I don't think he told you everything. If he did, I doubt you would be on here.

It's really your decision as to whether or not you want to wait seven months for him, but if he stops contacting you for a period of time and you cannot reach him, then my advice is to move on.

The other possibility is getting a message from him that his family wants him to marry someone else.

I would say to just be prepared for it to go either way.

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