Reply to Asma

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 18, 2010 at 17:27

Greetings Sister

Allow me to elaborate. This heart vs. mind is the great dilemma. A lot of women on here and people who try international on-line dating in general just give it up on their man because they cannot come to terms with the situation of knowing enough about him.

To me, that is a perfectly good reason to break up with someone. Stranger things have happened.

You could wait around for him, but I'm not really convinced that will make you feel better. True, you are both Muslim, but that has not stopped scammers and liars before. And if you decide to wait, well, there are going to be some worries you won't be able to shake off, and there are good reasons for that.

At the very least, Asma, you must communicate to him that you are not ready for marriage in general, not just to him.

Clearly, something is making you all flustered as though you must marry him now. This is what bothers me the most about your situation. If he cannot understand that you are not ready, then it absolutely is not worth the effort because quick marriages are almost always schemes.

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