Love is blind and also kills!

Submitted by Charles (China), Sep 6, 2010 at 03:31

I grew up in a society that have 50/50 Muslim/Christian population.It is highly encouraging to marry from ones same religion.When people of different religion are in love,and end up marrying especially inter Christian/Muslim marriages. They always forget that their love does not end with them,their love could end up bringing a lot of good and bad stuffs in the future.The good might be the kids,The bad might be unhappiness and total regrets ever after. Their families suffer out of their love,their kids may end up living with uncertainties, and insecurity as a result of their mistakes. I really believe that there are several things that people MUST try to avoid to do no matter how a woman loves a man,and this is one of them.

Out of a lot of cases,over 60% end up in disasters after several years and those who may want to make it work find out that it is almost impossible especially while living in a society that condone Islamic practices and laws and extended family pressure of which is part of Muslim culture. For a Christian woman who is planning to marry a Muslim male,you must understand that for your marriage to be legal,you must get married under Muslim traditional.Otherwise you are considered as committing fornication which is also punishable by Islamic law. This may sound simple at the beginning,because a lot will not be explained and also your BF or future husband will be skeptical to tell you or most probably,he is a city boy with limited knowlege of what to expect from a wife, but you are expected to observe all the traditions especially with you been a westerner which is totally the opposite of what you were thought while growing up.secondly,you are never allowed to go back to your faith as Christian,infact the Muslim law states that you are liable to DEATH under Islamic law as punishment once you convert back.Sounds scary but true. I think the problems and complications that will DEFINITELY result from this relationship is so much more than the gains and happiness you think you may have.

For couples who are really doing well,the first couple of years might be ok for some circular and non-extreme practicing Muslims male,but watch out after 4-5yrs,then when the kids starts growing and the need to raise them in religious ways and orientation then grandmothers/grandads pressure and friends of family etc. Then this is when the trouble starts. If the westerner or Christian chose to convert, sacrifice her freedom,culture and raise her kids in Muslim way,then you are fine on this within this period. ohh...by the way,the love might fade within 10yrs and you will end up having your husband marry two or more wives to satisfy his sexual desires and attractions to virgins which is acceptable in Muslim religion and before i forget,a woman that have an affair outside Muslim marriage is DEATH SENTENCE by stoning.Is this the love you want??? I dont think so.

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