Advice to LondonGirl

Submitted by AmericanDream (United States), Sep 8, 2010 at 20:05

His cousin may be in on it with him. His cousin may know of the plan to "marry you" so that he and her both can get papers after he divorces you, and live in your country. This isn't uncommon... it does happen. Some foreign women divorce their husband so he can marry a westerner then after he gets his papers divorces the westerner and then marries her again so they both can get out of their country. This really does happen.

What you may not understand is... He can convince you of his love, He can cry, he cant act, well enough to win an academy award just to keep you believing how much he loves you. You're his habibi, hes intimate with you ,he kisses you holds you plays with your hair,, even pretends to be jealous and possessive, he listens to you when youre mad...... and he can do this for YEARS.. because in the end he will get what he set out to get. Papers . And then he will go back to get the other thing he wants,,, a wife of his own kind. And, he will be a very good catch in his country cuz whoever marries him will also have legal residency or greencard in that country.

It wont matter what a good wife you are, wont matter how great a lover you are, it wont matter how sweet and kind and carry you are, wont matter how much youv'e helped him get established, and how great a mother you are...... wont matter if he is leaving you destroyed, suicidal, crying...........................he will still do what he initially set out to do: go back to his country to get one of his own to marry .. .then bring her to your country... hahaha. how dumb we westerners are? or how evil they are? Lets trust karma, god and the universe ......and mostly likely they'll get used themselves as they try to use us.

one thing you should think about - - - if he's with you and talking to another,, that should be enough warning to you already, especially this soon in your relationship. Better to keep the power in your hands while your'e still strong and while he's got nothing from you.

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