They come at you in a different way

Submitted by Jordanians (United States), Sep 10, 2010 at 13:35

My husband told me the same thing, "he did not want to come to the US, that he was coming here only for me". All along a greencard was his plan from the beginning. I knew he didn't love me anymore than I could say I loved him. I enjoyed him and wanted to be with him even if it took marriage for us to be together.

He did ask me to bring a $1000 with me on my trip there to help with the expense of getting married. I did because even though their Jd is worth more than our dollar, they don't make half the money we make here in America. I went alone and it was a safe place. There was lots of tourist there from all over the world. There are some trashy 3 star hotels that will allow you to stay with each other if he pay them.

Don't fall for that if you go check into a decent one like I did. There are lots of things you can do if you got the money to pay for it. My husband was not poor, we shared the expense, he drove a taxi. I met lots of women who husbands lived in other countries and send the money back to them. I am looking to hear from immigration in Oct of this year to let us know if he can come or not. I am like you, don't know rather to stop it or let it come through. I have only spent a thousand dollars plus half of the plane ticket, he has done the rest. He knows I am like him, not rich and I will not be taking care of a family back home. He would have to carry his load here. He is educated and speak English very well.

There are lots of Jordanians here and I don't doubt he know someone here already. This started out as a game with me now I'm beginning to get cold feet also. He and I are around the same age, there is no big gap between us. But I do know he wants to do better for his kids. I can understand that, but he will not use my money to do it. He knows this.

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