Seen it before

Submitted by All too familiar (Turkey), Oct 3, 2010 at 01:18

Living in Turkey for a long time now, I've seen this a lot. Many many many Turkish men go online to find girlfriends. I go to the houses of friends or Internet cafes and they have huge skype lists of women they talk to. Most are from Eastern Europe or Asia. Every single woman they talk to, they tell the same things - exactly what your guy is saying to you. It's usually just a ploy and as a non-Muslim and (most likely) non-virgin, marriage is not on the table.

As for the Facebook password, again this is standard. Turkish women are insanely jealous and will demand access to email accounts, facebook accounts, etc. Men here have learned to never keep anything incriminating on those accounts and to open up secondary accounts for anything else.

He's on the dating sites most likely because you're not the only person he's talking to. Most Turkish men don't marry before their mid-30's these days. Unemployment is incredibly high, so living with family and being unemployed is not uncommon at that age either.

I have had 2 friends that married Turkish men after online dating and they are very happy. However, this is the exception not the rule. Just be careful.

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